July 23, 2007

why i cried when tammy faye died.

hearing the news of tammy faye's death (from larry king) broke my heart and brought relief. she is no longer in pain, she is with her Jesus, and she is most likely noshing on a burger dripping with ketchup.

but. heartache just the same.

i grew up, literally, with the world of jim and tammy. i have vivid memories of sitting in my high chair watching the jim and tammy show on ptl. my mother still tells the story of how i would mimic her sheep-vibrato singing: you can ma-a-a-a-a-a-ke it. i was mesmerized by her, naturally. and when my sister brought home a boy who'd actually worked at ptl, who'd met tammy faye, i shared the news with my friends like i'd just met a celebrity. (and i was undeterred by their blank-stare responses.)

the downfall of the bakkers happened when i was 11. i didn't understand what was happening aside from what their enemies christian brothers, paul crouch and jerry falwell had to say about the subject. i saw the tears on the news. jim went to prison. tammy faye faded from view. i grew up.

and then she re-emerged in my life when she hosted a talk show with a gay man. i was 17, very closeted, and unsure of how i felt about her being so cozy with such an obvious sinner. deep down, i respected her: she was still the same tammy faye, in love with everybody.

helen and i watched the eyes of tammy faye last month, and i got to see her--and all the history i knew of her all my life--through the eyes of an adult. i saw a revolutionary who was an enthusiastic believer in Jesus. she was the one who welcomed AIDS patients onto her show, in a time when america wouldn't touch one with a ten foot pole. she did not judge. she prayed for healing. and she cried black, black tears.

she was the rock of her family. she helped her son and daughter heal from the abandonment of the church.

tammy faye understood the plight of the outcast, and she was Jesus' raccoon-eyed spokesperson:
everyone is invited to the table. come.

even gays.
even jim bakker.
even jerry falwell.
even all of us.

tammy faye will always be the woman who reminded me that big scary christianity can change.
she brought hope with grace, every day of her life.

she left us all with a benediction during her final interview with larry king on thursday:

"I'd like to say that I genuinely love you, and I genuinely care, and I genuinely want to see you in heaven someday. I want you to find peace. I want you to find joy."

Posted by bananie at July 23, 2007 10:11 AM |
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I shed a tear as well. She represented us all in a way, with her cosmetic facade, her quirks, her kookiness, and hopefully, her great, big, accepting, loving heart...

Posted by: beonkey at July 23, 2007 7:27 PM

I cried too. The thing that stood out the most about her (when many things easily could overshadow) was that she was just a good, unconditional loving person. What (I believe) is what true spirituality/christianity is supposed to be about.
Great post!

*btw-I found you thru Amalah*

Posted by: robin at July 24, 2007 6:45 AM

beonkey! xo

hi robin. i heart amalah. i'm so glad you're here!

Posted by: bananie at July 24, 2007 7:32 AM

To be honest, I knew absolutely nothing about Tammy Faye except the crying and the eyeshadow. If it weren't for your post, I'd have known nothing about her character. Thanks.

Posted by: Lisa C at July 24, 2007 2:22 PM

I'll miss her mascara...

Posted by: richard at July 26, 2007 6:28 AM

Lev. 18:22
Deut.23:17
Rom.1:21-27
1 Cor. 6:9

Posted by: Abe L. at July 26, 2007 9:20 AM

dear abe, thank you for the every reference condemning me.

i'm pretty sure what your intentions are here, and it is clear that we will simply have to agree to disagree.

God clearly hates shrimp as much as he does me. and i hope you are routinely stoning disobedient children.

also. judge not lest you be judged.
and. where there is grace there is no shame.

Posted by: bananie at July 26, 2007 10:11 AM

John 8:14-18

Posted by: abe L. at July 26, 2007 8:04 PM

http://www.truthsetsfree.net/studypaper.html

Posted by: bananie at July 27, 2007 2:49 PM

This was a beautiful reflection, Annie. Thank you for sharing this. It's nice to know that for some people, Tammy Faye / her life were not just a train wreck in slow motion, but rather something beautiful where God could truly be found.

Posted by: Tara at July 27, 2007 7:37 PM

bananie,
thanks for that oh-so-good word on sister tammy. it oughtta be in the new yorker.
don't let abe. L get you down (hi abe L.).

glad to be thinking of you,
jdd

Posted by: david dark at July 27, 2007 10:31 PM

tara, thank you for your words, and for your prayers too.

davey! you are a good man, and i'm so glad to see you here :) miss you guys very very much.

Posted by: bananie at July 28, 2007 12:21 AM

The Other Dark Exchange: Homosexuality, Part 1
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By John Piper

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Romans 1:24-28

Therefore God gave them over in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, so that their bodies would be dishonored among them. 25 For they exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever. Amen. 26 For this reason God gave them over to degrading passions; for their women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural, 27 and in the same way also the men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire toward one another, men with men committing indecent acts and receiving in their own persons the due penalty of their error. 28 And just as they did not see fit to acknowledge God any longer, God gave them over to a depraved mind, to do those things which are not proper.
Astonishing Relevance
In our exposition of Paul's letter to the Romans, we come now to this astonishingly relevant section in 1:24-28 where Paul touches on the reality of homosexuality. It is relevant for many reasons. For example, yesterday there was conference called "Here I Stand" to address the issue of homosexually active clergymen in the ELCA (Star Tribune, 10/10/98). On the front page of the Star Tribune there was the story of what appeared to be a hate crime against a homosexual student at the University of Wyoming who was in critical condition after being tied to a fence and beaten. In August, 641 Anglican bishops from around the world gathered for the Lambeth Conference in Canterbury, England, and voted overwhelmingly to affirm that homosexual practice is "incompatible with Scripture."

Full-page ads were recently taken out in USA Today and the New York Times and the Washington Post showing some 850 former homosexuals who gathered last summer at the Exodus conference and who declared there is power in Christ to be changed. Here in Minnesota, legal cases continually crop up about child custody and adoption of children by homosexual people. And most immediate of all, here in our church there are people who have homosexual desires and many more people among us who have people in their families whom they care about very deeply who consider themselves homosexual. The reality of homosexuality is inescapable today, and this would come as no surprise to the apostle Paul, and therefore should not to us.

One of the things that makes matters unusual today is the effort on the part of some people to defend the legitimacy of homosexual behavior from the Bible. Most common, for example, is the claim that the denunciations of homosexuality in the New Testament are not references to committed, long-term homosexual relations, which these people say are legitimate, but rather refer to promiscuous homosexual relations and to pederasty, which are not legitimate. To use the words of one scholar, "What the New Testament is against is something significantly different from a homosexual orientation which some people seem to have from their earliest days. In other words, the New Testament is not talking about what we have come to speak of as sexual inversion. Rather, it is concerned with sexual perversion" (Paul Jewett, Interpretation, April, 1985, p. 210).

Simply Denouncing Heterosexuals Engaging in Homosexuality?
With regard to our own text this morning, some would argue that what Paul is denouncing in 1:26b-27 is heterosexual people forsaking what is natural for them and engaging in promiscuous homosexual relations which are unnatural for them. Paul writes, "Their women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural, and in the same way also the men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire toward one another, men with men committing indecent acts." So, the argument goes, it is not unnatural when a homosexual person has homosexual relations, it is only unnatural when heterosexual persons have homosexual relations and (by implication) homosexual persons have heterosexual relations.

There are at least three major problems with this way of interpreting these verses. I will mention them because the last one will take us into the overall exposition of this section of Romans. The first problem is that in verse 27 Paul says, "The men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire toward one another." Now if these were men who were by nature heterosexual, and who were going against their natural desires, what is the meaning of "they burned in their desire toward one another"? It is a very strong term. Does a natural heterosexual burn with lust for another man? If not, it is very unlikely that what Paul is dealing with here is the subject of heterosexuals engaging in homosexuality.

There is such a thing as a bisexual, who seems to have desires for both men and women. But if that were in Paul's mind, the interpretation we are talking about wouldn't work either, because then the burning of a man for a man and a woman would both be natural (according to this interpretation), and Paul would be unjust to denounce either one. But he does denounce this unnatural burning and the acts that follow. So the argument doesn't work that says, Paul is only denouncing homosexual acts by heterosexual people.

The second reason the argument doesn't work is that when Paul says in verse 27b, "Their women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural," the Greek phrase for "that which is unnatural" (ten para phusin) is a stock phrase in Greek ethical literature of the time for homosexual behavior per se, not for homosexual behavior among heterosexuals - as though that's what made it unnatural. So it is very unlikely that Paul is arguing that what's wrong and unnatural about these folks is that they are heterosexuals by nature and acting contrary to nature by doing homosexual acts. "Contrary to nature" in this text, as it most Hellenistic literature of the time, meant homosexual behavior per se. That's what Paul regards as unnatural.

The third argument against this kind of interpretation is the most significant, because it takes us into the deeper meaning of this text. But before I develop it, let me explain where we are going in these two weeks. My aim today is to give as sound and faithful an exposition of Romans 1:24-28 as I can, which will leave me little time for application. That is why I plan to continue the message next week. We will need to broaden our Biblical base and to tackle some practical issues next week.

Pray for Biblical Balance
My prayer for both weeks is that we as a church, and I in particular as the preacher, will find a Biblical balance between clear conviction about the sinfulness of homosexual behavior, on the one hand, and patient compassion to come alongside those of you who have homosexual desires, and your friends and relatives, and seek your good. I have no desire to drive homosexual people away. On the contrary, I would like to be able to say of our congregation what Paul said to the church in Corinth: after mentioning "fornicators, idolaters, adulterers, effeminate, homosexuals, thieves, covetous, drunkards, revilers, swindlers," he says in 6:11, "Such were some of you; but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of our God."

I would like us to be a church like that - justified sinners battling together to walk in purity, with all of our differing genetic, hormonal, environmental disorders that incline everyone of us, in varying ways, to do sinful things. We will talk more about that next week. It's a very important issue. But the point for now is simply this: we want to be a church where homosexual people can either overcome their sexual disorder, or find the faith and courage and help and love and power to live a triumphant, joyful, celibate life with the disorder.

Triple Repetition of Three-fold Sequence of Thought
Now we turn to the third reason for rejecting the interpretation of Romans 1:26-27 which says that Paul is not denouncing homosexuals who do what comes naturally, but rather he is denouncing promiscuous heterosexuals who act unnaturally by doing homosexual acts. The reason is that the overall argument of the passage assumes another viewpoint.

Let's look at it. Three times in this passage Paul repeats a three-fold sequence of thought. The three-fold sequence of thought goes like this:

· Step 1 - Human beings exchange God for what God has made; we prefer the creature to the Creator. · Step 2 - God hands us over to what we prefer. · Step 3 - We act out externally and bodily in our sexual relations a dramatization of the internal, spiritual condition of the fallen human soul, namely, the horrendous exchange of God for man and the images of our power.

Walk with me through the text. I will show you the three times that Paul gives us this sequence of thought.

First time through the three-fold sequence - verses 23-34
Step 1 "They exchanged the glory of the incorruptible God for an image in the form of corruptible man . . ." (verse 23).

Step 2 "Therefore God gave them over in the lusts of their hearts to impurity" (verse 24).

Step 3 ". . . so that their bodies would be dishonored among them" (end of verse 24). In response to the rejection of God's glory as their treasure, God wills that there be a disordering of their bodily life in dishonorable deeds. He hands them over to impurity "so that their bodies would be dishonored among them." The sexual disordering of the human race is a judgment of God for our exchanging him for the creature - all of us.

Second time through the same steps - verses 25-27
Step 1 "They exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever. Amen" (verse 25). This parallels verse 23: they exchanged the glory of God for images. The "truth of God" is that he is glorious and to be desired above all things. The "lie" preferred by us humans is that the creature is more desirable than God.

Step 2 "For this reason God gave them over to degrading passions" (verse 26). That parallels verse 24: "God gave them over in the lusts of their hearts to impurity."

Step 3 ". . . for their women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural, and in the same way also the men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire toward one another, men with men committing indecent acts" (verses 26b-27). That corresponds to verse 24b: ". . . so that their bodies would be dishonored among them." So the dishonoring of the body that Paul had in mind in verse 24 is specifically homosexual behavior. And notice carefully, now we can say more specifically than in the first sequence of thought: The sexual disordering of the human race, especially homosexuality (but not only homosexuality) is a judgment of God for our exchanging the truth of God for a lie.

Third time through the same three-fold sequence - verse 28
Step 1 "They did not see fit to acknowledge God any longer" (verse 28). That corresponds to verses 23 and 25: they exchanged the glory of God for images and they exchanged the truth of God for a lie. Here: they simply don't want God in their knowledge any more.

Step 2 "God gave them over to a depraved mind" (verse 28b). That corresponds to verse 24, "God gave them over in the lusts of their hearts to impurity," and verse 26, "God gave them over to degrading passions." This was God's response to the universal exchange of God for the creature.

Step 3 "[He gave them over . . .] to do those things which are not proper" (verse 28c). That corresponds to verse 24b: ". . .so that their bodies would be dishonored among them," and to verses 26b-27, where the women and the men are pursuing homosexual relations. So homosexual behavior is parallel with dishonoring the body and doing what is not proper.

Conclusions
Now let me close with four brief concluding statements:

1. The deepest problem of our lives, whether heterosexual or homosexual, is the terrible exchange of the glory of God for images (verse 23). The exchange of the truth of God for a lie (verse 25). The disapproval of having God in our knowledge (verse 28). Failed worship is our worst disorder. This is beneath all the maladies of the world. Repairing this, not first our disordered sexuality, is our main business in life.

2. The sexual disordering of our lives, most vividly seen in homosexuality (though not only there), is the judgment of God upon the human race because we have exchanged the glory of God for other things. Sometimes people ask, "Is AIDS the judgment of God on homosexuality?" The answer from this text is: homosexuality itself is a judgment on the human race, because we have exchanged the glory of God for the creature - and so is AIDS and cancer and arthritis and Alzheimer's and every other disease and every other futility and misery in the world, including death. That's the point of Romans 5:15-18 and Romans 8:20-23, which we looked at when talking about Romans 1:18.

And what we saw there was that those who believe in Jesus Christ and are justified by faith and become the children of God are not taken out of this world of woe, but are given the grace to experience the very judgments of God on the human race as the merciful pathway to holiness and heaven rather than sin and hell.

3. The reason Paul focuses on homosexuality in these verses is because it is the most vivid dramatization in life of the profoundest connection between the disordering of heart-worship and the disordering of our sexual lives. I'll try to say it simply, though it is weighty beyond words.

We learn from Paul in Ephesians 5:31-32 that, from the beginning, manhood and womanhood existed to represent or dramatize God's relation to his people and then Christ's relation to his bride, the church. In this drama, the man represents God or Christ and is to love his wife as Christ loved the church. The woman represents God's people or the church. And sexual union in the covenant of marriage represents pure, undefiled, intense heart-worship. That is, God means for the beauty of worship to be dramatized in the right ordering of our sexual lives.

But instead, we have exchanged the glory of God for images, especially of ourselves. The beauty of heart-worship has been destroyed. Therefore, in judgment, God decrees that this disordering of our relation to him be dramatized in the disordering of our sexual relations with each other. And since the right ordering of our relationship to God in heart-worship was dramatized by heterosexual union in the covenant of marriage, the disordering of our relationship to God is dramatized by the breakdown of that heterosexual union.

Homosexuality is the most vivid form of that breakdown. God and man in covenant worship are represented by male and female in covenant sexual union. Therefore, when man turns from God to images of himself, God hands us over to what we have chosen and dramatizes it by male and female turning to images of themselves for sexual union, namely their own sex. Homosexuality is the judgment of God dramatizing the exchange of the glory of God for images of ourselves. (See the parallel uses of "exchange" in verses 25 and 26.)

4. Which leads us to one last word: The healing of the homosexual soul, as with every other soul, will be the return of the glory God to its rightful place in our affections.


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Posted by: Abe at July 29, 2007 2:55 PM

as i orginally said, i suppose we'll simply have to agree to disagree, abe.

...or else we're just going to throw verses and bible studies at each other all day, and where will that get us?

i'm still not sure why you're even commenting here, or, rather, dropping off verses and commentary. i'm guessing you're just trying to leave loving reminders about my soul's damned future? if that's your intent, i'd rather you take your comments elsewhere. i've had plenty of experience being condemned by other 'brothers and sisters trying to save me', and ya know what? still gay. still a child of god. still happy to be both.

peace.



Posted by: bananie at July 29, 2007 4:52 PM
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